Here are some of the things that brings about setbacks in our marriages that we need to avoid in order to save our marriage and build long lasting marriages with our spouses. 1. HOT TEMPER/ANGER: Always displaying a high degree of anger in your relationship is one of the relationship killers in any relationship. You need to learn how to control your anger and how to show that you ignore certain things,habits, actions in your marriage without necessarily turning it into a hot argument with your spouse that will affect you or partner negatively.
2.BEING TOO SPIRITUAL: It is very good to put God first in your marriage relationship but it is not the best to allow over spirituality to affect your relationship with your partner like always praying all the time, fasting and going on night prayers without having time to spend with your partner ,on certain issues that will affect your relationship or marriage now or in the near future. Remember that marriage or relationship is an earthly thing and it is 90% physical.
3.LACK OF TRUST : Where there is no trust , both parties may be hiding very important things about their lives from each other such as things that has to do with money , health ,fidelity to each other, paternity of children and that will definitely kills love in the relationship and the two parties will be doubting and suspecting each other.
4.DRESSING: This is very important to the ladies, to get your partner to stay with you and be happy , you need to always dress well , not necessarily dressing expensive.. You have to put on well clean and ironed clothes that is appealing and attractive to your partner . Do not say that it is not important that nobody is looking at you, your husband or partner desire or wishes that you should always be in your best dresses all the time for you to remain attractive to them.
5.Remember , that your husband is always seeing every day , other well dress women out there in the office , public places even including the ones that have been eyeing your spouse to get their attention.
In this article series , we are going to continue to look at the various marriage killers that we must avoid, happy ready .
6.YOUR APPERANCE/DRESSING: -So one of the important ways of saving your marriage is to ensure that you appearance is ok and attractive to your partner , so that your partner may not use that as a reason for going into infidelity . This is just the truth because your spouse may find it difficult to tell you this unless you are very sensitive and you are able to figure this out and adjust immediately to dress in an attractive manner . You need to know that men are first attracted to women generally including their wives , firstly by your physical appearance, that is the true and this also positively or negative affect their perception about your character, your spirituality, personal attributes ,background and values before they want to build a relationship with you.
So it all starts with your dressing first. Please I am not referring here to indecent , offensive, seductive and immoral dressing that is seen in our society today, Just Dress well as a discipline person. Men also need to know that women value and appreciate men that dress well, as it is more appealing to their emotions, their perception of yourself worth etc.
Udobon Godwins,is a marriage/relationship coach for over 6 years of experience providing practical steps, techniques and strategies for saving marriagesClick here to save your marriage